“I have been in dozens of small groups in my adult church life. I have loved many of the people in these groups. But I’ll admit, the group in which I actually did life with the people I met with in our ‘scheduled’ group time was the only group that felt like real community happened. Every other group I have been in I have made some great friends in which I hoped that in the future, I could have community with…But I feel like overall, the small group model might begin the process of true community, but it is not the answer for true community. What is the answer? I don’t know. But more and more people I talk with are coming to the same conclusion that the system they are in feels forced.”
A few days ago I spent about 30 min on the phone with the pastor of a growing church in Arlington, Texas. What are they doing? They’re doing both things. They have lots of seminars in their church to connect with the community, but they also offer small groups for the members to be involved in.
So what’s the right thing? I’m not sure. But I have definitely been feeling the lack of a community connection in the more simplified model I’ve been experimenting with.
Any thoughts? What do you think? What have you experienced? I need some feedback.