It’s one thing if someone feels that they’re not accepted or aren’t connecting in their workplace. If someone feels they aren’t connecting at work the greatest thing they will loose is a sense of loyalty to the company. They will probably not be a long-term employee.
In my last post I wrote about the danger of loneliness at work and how that contributes to being miserable at work. I’d now like to address the more dangerous issue of loneliness at church.
But when someone feels lonely in church, the problem becomes much more significant. One is an issue of loosing your job, the latter is an issue of loosing your faith.
Allow me to explain.
A few years ago my older brother finished all his schooling. He had been a professional student for some time, but he finally found a good job in Orlando, FL. Growing up in a Christian home, he sought to visit a church in orlando where he could begin to develop some roots. I will allow the name of the church to go unnamed, but suffice it to say that after six months of attending the church, my brother still felt like a stranger.
He felt like he wasn’t connecting. He felt like the church wasn’t making an effort to connect him. The people weren’t very friendly to outsiders.
Over time I noticed a transition in him. He went from using language like “I’m not liking this church,” to language like “I’m not liking the church.” He went from harboring feelings of dislike and disdain for that local church, to beginning to hate churches period.
This is what happens when someone begins to feel lonely at church. They’ll go from leaving a local church, to leaving the faith entirely.
This is the single biggest issue I think about in my churches, because I know that if someone is connected to at least a few people, they will forgive a multitude of sins that they see in the quality of preaching, music, or ministries.
Over the next few weeks I will be posting on a few things that I’ve been experimenting with to help people feel more connected in my churches.
If you’re a church leader, what are you doing to help people feel more connected to each other?
If you’re a church member, what are some good things that your church is doing to help you feel connected? If you aren’t feeling connected, what are some recommendations you’d make so that you could become more connected?