In the last few weeks Facebook has instituted some new privacy settings. They give you more control over who gets to see your stuff. Here’s one post by the New York Times on how to change and edit some of those.
All this has made me think more about boundaries.
In the same article it mentions how many workplaces and schools have instituted protocols where you cannot become a “friend” of your student. And I think I can see why. Older adult. Younger student. Not usually the best recipe.
But what about in the church? What do you think? Should a church be different? What’s it like for you to be a facebook “friend” of your pastor?
I’m interested to hear your responses on that.
Here’s why I enjoy being connected on Facebook and Twitter to my congregation, though.
1. It adds a connection point
I think anything that reminds me of someone is a good thing. When I log on and see how one of my “friends” are doing, it makes me want to send them a quick note. Or if they don’t seem to be having a good day, I may give them a call. As they say, “out of sight, out of mind.” So this helps to avoid that.
2. It humanizes people
I think that transparency corresponds to trust. I want to be authentic in all areas of my life. Whether in front of a church or in my home. Back in the day pastors were actually admonished to not share too much of their life. To always be in a suit. Otherwise, the “image” of the pastor will be damaged. Personally, I don’t feel like that’s the case anymore. Especially with the younger generations. So when I share on Facebook or Twitter I think it helps to build a bridge of connection and understanding, and helps people to see that, though I am a pastor, I am a human being with red blood as well.
Of course we should always be careful about what we share in a somewhat public arena.
So what do you think? Should a church be different? What’s it like for you to be a facebook “friend” of your pastor? Does it help or hinder the relationship?
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